In an age where masculinity is often mistaken for male patriarchy, I want to commend men remaining true to who they were created to be. As the country continues its descent down the road of gender ambiguity, these men, real men will be crucial to its restoration.
So many men have succumbed to the cries of the culture which desires to re-create them. They are told to defer to the woman, but don’t dare compliment one; that could be seen as sexual harassment. And there are a host of ambiguities these men face daily, that the new PC America demands.
Heaven forbid a conversation comes up about abortion, and a man even comments on the sanctity of life. Most Liberals believe this issue is entirely the woman’s choice, leaving the man out of the equation.
This belief has excused men from accountability, and led to the surrendering of responsibilities of the man in the family unit. Add to this the introduction of lesbian unions, and one can see there soon will be even less male influence in families.
It’s difficult to argue that in today’s climate there is a growing animosity for authentic men, and the roles that are rightfully theirs in society. It starts as early as preschool where boys have been disciplined for innocent acts such as bringing toy guns to school or kissing a cute little girl on the cheek. That’s what little boys have done for generations. But the castigation of boys only gets worse boys grow into young men and ultimately men.
Just the other day a good friend of mine was relating a story about when he dropped his son off at a new school. Like all parents, you want your child to make friends and feel comfortable, so my friend brought along a soccer ball to kick around with his son in hopes of gathering possible acquaintances for him to meet. He was surprised at the number of boys who came up immediately wanting to play. When administrators banned the ball, they asked my friend to run races with them, which he did. He said to me that he was swamped with young boys (and even some girls) who longed for positive male attention.
There is undoubtedly a vacuum of male leadership in the inner cities where so often children grow up fatherless, but also in the number of broken families through divorce. Sadly the result can be men who question their identity. On the flip side those men who have had positive role models in a father, uncle, coaches, and so on generally grow up to be strong men.
Authentic men speak unapologetically about what they believe to be truth, gladly take leadership roles, and don’t remain silent or still when obvious wrongs are occurring. Their character shines through especially in the midst of stressful situations. And yes, they pay tasteful compliments to women, compliments that promote self-esteem while showing them respect…
Consider what John Eldredge, author of Wild at Heart, said about men needing permission to be true to their heart and their passions, and how that effects a woman.
“They need a deeper understanding of why they long for adventures and battles and a Beauty-and why God made them just like that. They need a deeper understanding of why women long to be fought for, to be swept up into adventure, and to be the Beauty. For that is how God made them as well.”
When women are around men who are comfortable in their own skin, they find it encouraging and comforting. I would venture to say many marriages could benefit from the husband embracing true masculinity, because it yields legitimate femininity. It is a cycle that has gotten interrupted by a civilization that is growing more antagonistic of gender norms.
Societal norms that have led the way men should and ought to act, have been established over hundreds of years in America, and some would say ordained by nature. But many men have grown away from these norms, in part because of the feminist movement.
Women and women’s issues seem to remain at the forefront of daytime talk shows and most definitely the hot button topic of the Liberal left, not to mention Hollywood’s bent. And when it’s not women’s shows, it’s shows about gays.
Men who are undeterred by the pop culture’s narrative, don’t back down from confrontation due to their beliefs. They also stand up for those who can’t help themselves.
I have had the privilege of knowing many men throughout my life who mirror these qualities, and not one of them was of a liberal mindset. I want to thank those manly men, who continue to set great examples for those who aspire to be such. Believe me, real women appreciate you, and so do the feminists, though they would never admit it.
I would also urge other men who have dismissed their true calling to step up to the plate and make a stand in these areas discussed. Your influence could be limitless. America is in desperate need of authentic men. If their numbers can grow, they may encourage the rebirth of true femininity in America.